WORDS Megan Smith
[dropcap]Q: [/dropcap]I can’t stop listening to ‘Someone Like You’ by Adele and thinking about my ex. We had a nasty breakup a long while ago but I’m still not over it. How does one get over an ex and just move on from heartbreak?
[dropcap]A: [/dropcap]If there was a fool proof, safety guaranteed way of getting over someone who broke your heart then I wouldn’t have spent so many hours curled up under blankets self-indulgently listening to “I Know It’s Over” by The Smiths on repeat. The only things that help the hurt are time, good company, and burning some effigies.
Though, you do have to ask yourself why you’re still thinking about this person. Do you actually miss them? Or the way they made you feel? Most relationships that culminate in horrific breakups usually weren’t that swell beforehand. It’s easy to view the ghosts of relationships past with nostalgia, but your relationship ended for a reason.
Look, sometimes it lasts in love, and sometimes it hurts instead. I have no doubt that you’ll find someone else, I’m not sure what their likeness to your ex will be, but that doesn’t matter. If you don’t find someone else, it’s probably because you keep listening to ‘Someone Like You’, cuz that shit got old fast. So don’t despair, it won’t feel like this forever. If a broken heart is everlasting, then it’s probably a quite serious medical condition so please get that checked. I wish nothing but the best for you.